In the ecstasy of new love people overlook flaws, quirks, and problems in the other or in the relationship.
When that emotion evolves, as it must and will, you’ll start to be bothered by things that never bothered you before.
They would admit that there is never a “happily ever after” and that leaving one relationship for another is trading one set of problems for another.
In short, they would have stayed in the first marriage and done all they could to make it work.
Though logic doesn’t reign for you at this moment, please attempt to silence your emotions temporarily to see past the feelings into your future.
What do you honestly, at the deepest level of your being, expect it to be ten years from now if you abandon your marriage, maybe destroy another in the process (if your lover is married as well), and violate your core beliefs? Based on my observations of and work with thousands of people, I can tell you from a purely logical, statistical, vantage point, that it is extremely unlikely.
Relationship affairs – as opposed to the one-night-stand type of affairs that are wholly about sex and not at all about relationship – usually find root in a person’s feeling unloved, unaccepted, disliked, or disrespected.
Your desire is (There may be an exception to that if you feel that your spouse has been unkind or hurtful. The intensity of your present emotions may make that the choice that seems most likely to make you happy.
If so, that degree of negativity toward your spouse probably increased its intensity after your affair began.) You have four potential paths before you: 1. However, there are long-term consequences that will come with that choice.
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