Divorces, like men, come in all shapes, sizes, and situations.
Sometimes there are amicable divorces; sometimes there are epic divorces that last years and years with lots of “collateral damage.” But if you’re dating recreationally and not considering him as a long-term partner, then these questions might not matter as much, since you’re not concerned with long-term compatibility.
You have to acknowledge and be aware of the facts of the relationship, such as his availability when it comes to his caring for the kids, his financial obligations to his ex (if any), and where he is right now with his emotional readiness to date other people.
If you go into your relationship hoping for spontaneous weekend trips to Cabo or Vegas, but his weekends are about shuttling his daughters to music lessons, soccer practice or helping with a science project, you will be disappointed. And with regard to his readiness to date other people, be aware of, or to try to, discern whether he just wants to date for fun right now or if he is looking to date with the intention of finding a long-term partner.
He may need to communicate with his ex because even if the divorce is final, they might have other things to work out like childcare, or questions and issues about the property they co-owned.
Here are some questions to consider: Did he leave Was there infidelity? It’s good to know why they decided to split up and how the split went.
To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with being the rebound woman, if that’s what you want to be.
But, if you don’t want to be the rebound woman, and you’re not aware that you are the rebound woman, that’s when you’re at risk of getting hurt.
Typically, when a divorce is final, it means that both parties have reached an agreement on custody and how to split up their mutual assets such as the house, investments, the pets, etc.
Sometimes, a couple might choose to divorce but still remain partners in an investment, or still co-own a property.